Monica Bielanko
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Saturday
Jun092007

What Say You?

I certainly have an opinion. Instead of my usual ramblings, I would like to hear your thoughts. On celebrity justice... Paris... Those who are famous for being famous. On The Haves and The Have Nots. On the startling fact that Paris Hilton going to jail created as much or more furor in L.A. than a famous football player suspected of murdering his wife who then fled down the freeway with a gun to his head threatening to kill himself.

Political pundits trading Iraq jabs for Paris punches. Bill O'Reilly is against Paris. Ann "The Devil's Mistress" Coulter is for her. Sean Hannity against her. Geraldo for her. Greta Van Sustern thinks she's mentally ill. Danny Bonaduce hopes she gets her ass kicked in prison. Al Sharpton is organizing an L.A. protest.

Do you feel bad for her? Did the blonde bimbo get what she deserved? Is it her parents' fault? Is the whole Paris circus just a sad commentary on our society at large? Or is watching Paris' problems and hearing reports about the vapid vixen twitching, quivering and crying out for Mommy in a courtroom better than a night at the movies? Paris, prison and the press. What say you?

Reader Comments (47)

Personally, I think she's getting what she deserves. Legally and on a karmic level. I don't feel bad for her at all. Maybe this is the best thing that will happen to her because it will help her pull her head out of her ass and figure out that she can't do whatever she wants and she's not above the law.

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle

Look, I don't condone her drinking and driving, then blatantly disregarding her court order, but this case has been grossly mishandled...

In my opinion, she's been treated unfairly and suffered enough in the past 2 day's, therefore, I feel that she should be released and send home to serve out the remainder of her punishment under House Arrest.

I'm disgusted by the amount of attention this case is getting -- The real, hard news fails to get its due.

America is so fucked up!

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterS

She was driving drunk, then was pulled over several times for driving and finally ticketed for driving on a suspended license. When a judge asked her didn't she know her license was suspended she answered:
"My publicist said I could drive."
"Don't you check your mail, didn't you get a letter from the court saying your license was suspended?"
"I have people check my mail."

Please. This chick deserves to go to jail. Nobody should be released because they're having a nervous break down. How many other inmates are freaking out that their in jail? The sheriff just let's her go because she's upset and crying? That's bullshit. If she would have kept her mouth shut she would have been released for good behavior in a couple days.

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJAY

Paris isn't doing anything that most Alcoholics/Addicts haven't tried, done or will do. It's just that the progression of her disease, like all young Hollywood, is on display 24/7. Don't hate the Playa, hate the game!

For the record, she's helped countless charities to raise money, that they wouldn't otherwise have. I know this to be true.

Most importantly, let's just hope that this experience forces her to grow up.

As for Karma, I wish this turmoil on no one!

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterE.

I'd like to see her gang raped in jail. Ever see the video of her throwing around the N-Word? She's a waste of a human being. Justice system or not she deserves every bit of what is happening to her.

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDiz

This is on TMZ - Paris Hilton is "teetering on the brink."

Law enforcement sources have told TMZ that Hilton has been crying a lot, praying and extremely withdrawn.

Hilton is in the medical ward at Twin Towers, an L.A. County jail facility. She is in a room by herself with a glass door. For her protection, a sergeant guards the door at all times.

We're told Hilton hasn't eaten or slept since she arrived yesterday.

Sources have described her condition today as "fragile" and "despondent." One source called her "a train wreck" while another said she is "sullen and withdrawn."

We've learned her shrink, Dr. Charles Sophy, spent more than two hours with her this morning. Hilton's family can't visit today. In the medical ward, families can only visit on Sundays and Tuesdays.


I say, who cares. Suck it up. Jail sucks. Why is she getting special treatment in isolation with two hour visits from her therapist?

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJell-O

Paris Hilton is behind bars for thumbing her nose at the judge, not because of the DUI. If she had been to court on time and acted responsibly she never would have been sent to jail. Because she acted above the law and entitled, the judge threw the book at her.

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSela

The media attention is totally out of proportion - I'm not entertained by anything to do with Ms Hilton, including this.

But the amount of attention makes it even more important that she is not able to escape "justice" for here disrespect of the court. Myabe she is reaping the whirlwind of her own publicity machine, who knows, who cares?

All that said, it's hard not to think that for someone who has lived so much of their life in guilt-free seduction of the public's attention, she has cracked remarkably easily when things did not go her way.

June 9, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterf

"No....It's really not. It's just like the Paris debacle. Junk food. A trainwreck. Highly watchable, very distracting. but ultimately empty."


To each his own.. At least you're entertained.

June 9, 2007 | Registered CommenterMonicaBielanko

I have mixed thoughts about it. To be honest, she does deserve punishment for what she did. BUT, all of the hype about it, the media constantly surrounding her, the circus that all of this has become... it's ridiculous.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterthethinker

I think she definitely deserves what she gets. Just because she is a pseudo-celebrity doesn't mean she should get any better treatment. She and the rest of these attention whores always act above the law.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJB

My considered opinion is that I don't know enough about her or her situation to make any sort of statement that isn't 2 parts ignorance, 3 parts status envy and 10 parts my own projection based on where I am in my life.

Watching Paris Hilton is like watching a car crash in slow-motion and it doesn't make anyone better for spectating on the sidelines eating popcorn and taking bets.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMaxine

I think she's getting what she deserves. Her parents raised an idiot and they all think waving money at it will make the problem go away.

I just wish the "news" would focus on something else, cause Paris isn't news.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterLisa

So many people are complaining that Paris gets attention for doing nothing, and yet- they are doing just that. Giving more attention to perpetuate the situation.

The judge was damned if he did and damned if he didn't. He was (overly, in my opinion) harsh and there are people complaining, but if he had been more lenient then that would have been frowned upon as well. So many people drive on suspended licenses and do not get sentenced to 45 days. Most get nothing more then a slap on the wrist. That said, she was wrong. She was sentenced and she should accept her punishment.

As for being in the medical ward- she sounds very depressed. It would be cruel and unusual punishment to just throw her to the dogs. Is she faking? Possibly but as none of us, presumably, are in a position to examine her in person then none of us are qualified enough to judge that.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterLe Sigh

Paris Hilton comes across as a rich, spoiled brat. The judge obviously agreed when he threw the book at her, not impressed with her privileged excuses of not reading or knowing about the notices the court mailed to her and claiming to rely on her publicist (whom she later fired and rehired), rather than her "crack" team of lawyers, about whether she legally could drive. It looks to me like she has been "working it" in jail in typical drama queen fashion, right down to having a 3-day long tantrum that has now resulted in some allegedly diagnosed psych condition. I think the judge views this as a farce and was irritated that the Hiltons again acted above the law, when the sheriff let Paris out without court order and when Paris wanted to dial in her court appearance. The problem is that she appears more intent in enrolling others to feel sorry for her, rather than taking away something from the experience. Remember Martha?

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSaffoula

I think that the whole clebrity adulation culture is pathetic.

Who cares that a stupid bimbo is sent to jail because she thought she was above the law?

Let's concentrate on the real issues, like Iraq and Afghanistan, like dodgy politicians, like gun crime and drugs and all the things that are wrong with this world, and ignore the people like Miss Hilton who is famous for having an extremely rich daddy and for an internet porn video, and hope they crawl back under the rock from whence they came.

I really do believe that the whole 'celebrity culture' rubbish is something that has been deliberately orchestrated to take our minds off the important issues.

"Keep them entertained with details of the latest 'celebrity' rehab, then they'll forget that their kids get a crap education" seems to be the order of the day....

And yet, we fall for it. People watch rubbish like Big Brother in their millions, spend hours queuing up to get the latest fashions supposedly designed by Kate Moss, devour newspapers for any mention of (insert famous name here) and their latest drug/drink dependency or boy/girl friend, and ignore the REAL issues....

As for the people who have hijacked this thread to discuss something completely different, why don't you just consume excrement and expire....

This is meant to be a discussion on specific issues, not a chance to drag up stuff that has been done to death in the past and is completely unrelated to the question at hand

Damien

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDamien

Give Paris a break! Whether she's a twat or not her sentence was unfair. Nobody I know is sentenced to 45 days in jail for driving on a suspended license. This judge is no better than the douche in the Anna Nicole case and is just trying to make a name for himself!

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterToby

I feel sorry for her and think she is being treated harshly because she is a very rich celebrity. She is being unfairly punished and, compared to the only life she knows, this is cruel and unusual. Meanwhile, the woman who murdered her husband get 210 days.

You may think ste's stupid and spoiled but she isn't a threat to society and if they want her off the streets then give her house arrest.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterjls

As an attorney, I believe that the judge did exactly what he should have: he administered justice. When all is said and done, Paris was in his court room because of her criminal actions. The end. Move on.

As a fellow human being, I feel sorry for her. I put a lot of the blame upon her parents. Maybe if they had taken the time to actually teach her how to be a responsible, intelligent, moral woman, she wouldn't constantly find herself wallowing amongst the pigs. What a waste of a human life.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterM

I've always been curious as to why you leave the comments off on most of your posts. Having seen how everyone with this post is going off on a completely unrelated tangent and asking/commenting on something other than the intended question, I am no longer confused.

It must be hard putting up with people permanently questioning every aspect of what has happened in the past and feeling they can judge you on things that have happened in the past, based purely on what they have read on-line.

No wonder you usually leave the comments off, as I'm sure this is something that you want to forget about and move on with your life.

I for one will never comment on that period of your life, for the simple reason that I have never met either you or the other party involved, so feel I am not entitled to cast judgement on it.

If only other people could be so enlightened.

Sure, read what's posted up here, and elsewhere for that matter. Feel entertained by what is, in fairness, some excellent writing by both parties.

Then behave like an adult, and say to yourself....

"That was an interesting read. Now, how about I go and get some work done and stop living my life by making judgements about other peoples"

Damien

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDamien

E.....

Please re-read the previous comments and feel free to direct your ire at the person who actually made the remark that has wound you up as much as it clearly did.

Unlike you, I am happy for people to know exactly who I am, and if you would like to have a discussion with regards any anger management issues you may feel I have, please feel free to e-mail me direct to the address provided.

You will also please note that at no point have I actually used any expletives, although I will concede that your translation was correct. I'd appreciate it if you could extend the same courtesy....

Damien

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDamien

I'm appalled by the attorneys comment. "A waste of life".

We're all put on this earth to learn our own series of lessons -- We each have obstacles to overcome.

The real question we should be asking ourselves is: I'm doing my part to make this world a better place?

I'm doing my very best to raise a confident/kind teenage girl, one I hope keep off of drugs. Which leads me to Gemma's comment, are you kidding me with that comment?! That's one of the most ignorant statements that I've ever heard!

Vanity is only a part of life, but having to live with addictions is life long...

I'd love to see a 1/10 of the focus on Paris' case be directed toward our President and the mess that this country is in.

Finally, I cannot believe all the people who dare to come on your blog on behalf of CL and continue to act like highschool girls. Now that, to me, is a waste of energy...

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterS.

Get over yourself, Damien. I am thoroughly unimpressed.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterE.

And I'm not going to get myself embroiled in a public row with someone who hasn't got the decency to let people know who they are...

So any further comments you make will be ignored by me. All I was actually doing with my last post was pointing out your previous mistakes.

Sorry if that caused offence, as I know it must be tough to sit there in your anonymous little world directing criticism at people who are undeserving of said criticism when it is directed back at you.

Damien

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterDamien


You've given me a good laugh, Damien. And pointed out zero "mistakes." but made explicit your own complete hypocrisy.
Many thanks.


ps: Do you actually believe giving an email address lets people "know who you are"? How ridiculous.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterE.

"Is the whole Paris circus just a sad commentary on our society at large?"

bingo. of course she cried, twitched and cried out for mommy. she's the ultimate spoiled brat - the only day of work she's ever done in her life was for a REALITY TELEVISION SHOW - who's been handed everything she ever wanted and allowed to coast through life without breaking a sweat. of course, when she finds out there are actually consequences for her actions - actions that include drinking and driving, which, last i checked, is pretty fucking dangerous - she immediately resorts to her instincts: let mommy fix it.

i have zero sympathy for paris hilton, the same way i have zero sympathy for anyone who gets their ass thrown in jail for driving drunk and endangering other motorists, bike riders and pedestrians. living her life in the public eye has further enabled her to enjoy a life of privilege most of us will never comprehend, and i'm supposed to have pity on her because that same life in the public eye, along with her own reckless, careless behavior, came back to bite her in the ass? no thanks. fuck paris hilton.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterkasey

What kasey said.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAimee

Monica,

When it comes to Carolyn, and I didn't read the ClickBy as the dirty details don't interest me, don't get mad, get even.

I once found myself in the position of competing against another woman for the attention of my husband in cyberspace, a very weird space in deed. But I ignored it, for the most part, and fought back. I think I won as he seems to have lost interest in her.

But she tried so hard to seduce him. She stripped on her web cam. She wrote him dirty stories, had virtual sex. Offered to meet him in person. But when it was all over and clear that he had no real interest in her, to restore my self equilibrium, I got even.

So a bit of advice, ignore Carolyn. And then strike when you are ready. But your story, as you pointed out in the prior entry, is not that unique and hence, not that interesting. Unless you can provide us with a surprise ending, which would require either a threesome or a dead body, preferably the Serge's after you discover a secret continued liaison between him and Carolyn in which you are truly the innocent victim.

Me, well, since the poor dear seemed to be so desparate to meet a new man, I ran an ad for her. Her passions?

Blow jobs and borscht. Oh yeah, and virtual sex.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterIsabelle Dolce

I think it's a tribute to Serge's sexiness that this woman remains so interested in life (his music, his wife, what his fans think) for so many years after he broke up with her. Even after she apparently moved in with another man. Serge must be a tough one to get over!

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJuju

I've been reading The Girl Who from the beginning. You rock Monica! I can't wait until you finish your side. I read Caroline's glossy version of events and I just laughed. Hurry up and get to the good stuff!

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterK

Monica,
I'd like to try to answer the Paris questions you posed. Do I feel bad for her...not for a minute. Did she get what she deserved...you bet. Is it her parent's fault...for raising her to act the fool yes, for the DUI no. Is the Paris circus a sad commentary on our society...it is insane where we have sunk to as a society. I love "celebrity news" and following the fashion trends as much as the next girl, but it's not the be all and end all. I absolutely cannot STAND when someone is famous for being famous, ie: Paris, Nicole Ritchie and a slew of "reality stars". Please! When I think of all the fantastic actors on broadway making a fraction of the $$ these stupid girls make, oh I could be sick. Since I was so kind as to actually answer the questions you asked and not make 10,000 comments about "The Click By" (which I love), I'd like to have permission to tell "E" to leave you the hell alone. It's your goddamn life and you don't owe any of us an explanation on why you are writing the Click By or what your motivation is. It's your story to tell any way you see fit!
Tricia
P.S. Your Marvin Gaye post was classic...I laughed so hard I almost cried.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterTricia

WHy leave out Lindsay Lohan in all this!! LOL
I think Nicole Richie is almost excited at the thought she might go to jail! She is monopolizing on the fact that Paris went to jai, if she can do it so can Nicole! LOL Good stuff! Now what's going on in Darfur again?

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJen

the mets do suck. fuck the mets.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterkasey

Oh Monica. Stop explaining yourself to this idiot. Your availability and honesty is a huge part of your charm but there comes a time when you just need to ignore people who try to mes with your head. Write whatever you choose and disable comments if you have to. Just so long as I can keep reading.

June 10, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterStacia

Pretty telling that people are more interested in discussing The Click By instead of Paris Hilton. I think that means you should keep posting your story. If my boyfriend's ex wrote the same thing that yours did I don't know what I would do. I read her crap and felt like wringing her neck myself and I don't know either one of you!

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterSarah

I was sitting in the grass one night, completely fucked up out of my mind, six weeks after I turned 21. I'd pulled over because I realized I was too drunk to drive and tried to phone a friend to pick me up.

However, a cop was at the gas station and saw me sitting in the grass. He confronted me and arrested me for drunk driving because even though he hadn't seen me driving he had reasonable suspicion to believe that I was.

Yeah. That kind of shit happens here in Texas.

At the time, I was in the military, so I did the only thing I could do: take in the ass and not complain. I did everything the Court told me to and that included not driving on my suspended license.

Why homegirl should be exempt for breaking the rules is a bizarre concept; very bizarre.

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterpomponcrystal

I just wonder why some people couldn't live their life and stop asking on & on the same staff about The Click By...
Monica, I think you put everything about this subject so clearly, even for my english:) please some of you time to move step or 2, 5 steps on, isn't it simple???

everytime I read such coments i start singing one of ayo's song -'life is real'- it's goes like this '[...] A friend of mine gave me an advice he said be careful and think twice before you talk about your life protect yourself just keep quiet the more they know the harder they try to spoil your ways to spread lies and even though i know he could be right...' I love this song, remind me about your writing...


ah, have a nice day... :)))

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterana

I am going to guess people continue talking about The Click BY because....Monica keeps writing about it. At length. In detail. OBVIOUSLY it's her prerogative to do so, but to then be so disturbed and offended because people are interested strikes me as...odd, to say the least. Also, to accuse Caroline of whipping what amounts to nothing into a frenzied shitstorm and then do the exact same thing once it's all died down strikes me as...well, a tad hypocritical. It's a good story, there are at least two sides (though the one I'd really like to read is Serge's) and people are fascinated--that's a GOOD thing for a writer (and, I would argue, an exhibitionist). Paris Hilton? I agree with E on that score---there are a million other blogs discussing that nonsense, you want to be one more? Ok. But, you are smart enough to know that you only disinguish yourself with the stuff that's way closer to home

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJack

A person sells a old cookie jar on E-bay because it is a collectors item. It is only valuable because someone else wants to collect it. Otherwise it's worthless.

It's the same story with Paris. It's only a media event because we make it so. It we stop paying attention to it, it'll go away. If we stop paying attention to Paris...she'll go away too. Turn off ET and watch Jeopardy once in a while.

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbob

...oh, I forgot to add, it's called the commodification of voyeurism. The trick is to just stop buying.

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterbob

Paris got what anyone else would have gotten, which is justice. The media and world is so fascinated, I believe, because for once a spoiled heiress is being judged like you and I. I think there are some exceptions being brought in due to her public status and for her safety is being detained alone. Which is fine with me as long as she does the time. What I think really stinks is that she'll now use this as a publicity stunt to be "Saint Paris" she'll claim she's changed and blah, blah, blah...tear. I personally think that part will be disgusting. I have come to try to numb it out and will try again when she is released and she comes out "saved" and holy.

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered Commenterchels

I just watched one of those court TV programs about the Scott Peterson trial .. there were actually people outside cheering when he was given the death penalty. We, as a people, as a mess.

Also, I "hear: when you have to detox (off coke and whatever else).. you tend to go through withdrawls (crying, depression, blah, blah) Perhaps this is ol' Ms. Hilton's problem?

I got a DUI not too long ago .. do I don't have any sympathy ... do the crime, do the time .. end of story.
~wendy

June 11, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterWendy in Cali~

You know, just because someone writes about something on their blog doesn't give you the right to continually harrass them about it. Like Monica said, she also wrote in depth about her abortion and marraige trouble but I think it would be in entirely bad taste to continue berating her with questions about it. What makes you think it's okay to continue with questions about The Click By. Considering everything Caroline wrote, Monica certainly has every right to post her response and I think it's admirable that, unlike Caroline, she isn't encouraging negative comments over it.

June 12, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle

Oh for God's sake--talk about melodrama. I have seen zero evidence of "harassment" or "berating" in these comments. Just people, questioning stuff they've read. There's a lot of truly awful shit going on in the world right now, try having a little perspective .

June 12, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterJack

So someone has taken umbrage with my comment of a "sad waste of a human life." Wake up. Paris is not a teen-ager. She is an ADULT, and should be acting like one. She is 26 years old, has lots of time and money on her hands, and makes it her job to show up at the "hot" parties.

And comparing the President of the United States to Paris Hilton is ridiculous. The President actually has a job. Yes, you may not like the way he is doing it, but he's still out there 24/7 trying to manipulate his way through the landmines of what we call politics.

Your question is valid: "Am I doing my part?" As an attorney, I put in countless hours of pro bono work. I volunteer at my local charities. I donate money to worthwhile causes...I, too, am raising two little kids (and as a single parent), and I will kick their butts if they ever attempt drugs, but you know what, ultimately it is MY responsibility to teach them and make sure they are doing what they should be doing, so that they don't end up with any "addictions for life."

Now, my question to you S. is what are YOU doing? Are YOU doing your part to make this a better world?

June 12, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterM

(my english has been excused before)
No human being deserves humiliation. Neither do Paris. I think the best thing we can do to make this a better world is feeling compassion. Paris is a very bad specimen of human (in my opinion), but still one.
I mean, if spanish government has set free a known TERRORIST because of his poor "physical and mental condition" attending to human rights, let this girl (and other like her) cry in her house, with her family. She's just lost, and law should help lives instead of hurt them.

June 12, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterAdiaz

Hello M.

To answer your question: I believe I am doing my part.

I've been able to figure out a way to work from home, so I am able to be fully present for my teenage daughter. I think the bebefits are many.

As for keeping her off Drugs: I take this challenge very seriously, as I myself, am a recovering Alcoholic. I've been sober five years. I've made it a point to teach my daughter that she too, could very well carry the gene that leads to Alcoholism, being as how we're Native American. Therefore, she needs to pay close attention to this fact, as she grows older. Note: I don't wish to scare her, but simply make her very aware of the ugly truths -- surrounding Drugs/Alcohol.

As for my community: I've had the ongoing privilege of helping to raise money for several charitable causes -- as has my daughter. Believe it or not, she owns her own jewelry business, and contributes a portion of her proceeds to two different charities that close to her heart. Needless to say, I'm very proud of her, and what's she's been able to accomplish thus far.

Meanwhile, I struggle like most -- to find balance. Some days are better than others, but I guess it's why I have some compassion for what Paris is going through. I know she has a rough road ahead of her.

Regards,
S.

June 12, 2007 | Unregistered CommenterS.

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