Monica Bielanko
A chronicle since 2005 of my marriage & move to Brooklyn in my twenties; becoming a mother in my thirties; moving to Pennsylvania and learning to amicably coparent after divorce in my forties while living 3 doors down from my ex-husband in a small country town.
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Tuesday
Aug132013

All Of The TV

Oh, hi. You're still here? Me too. It's really quiet around here. I think it's just the two of us. So, how YOU doin'? Good? That's nice. I'm okay. I've just been over here creating life and eating all of the food and watching all of the TV.

All of it.

I need Dateline to make more Datelines because I've seen all of the murders. I need Tia and Tamera to go steam their vaginas again because I've run out of episodes. I need Kris and Brody to argue some more because episodes featuring Bruce aren't as fun. I need to decide once and for all who is hotter: Nev or Max. Who is the most sensitive? If I had to choose, who would I marry? And what about the Robertsons? Is Jase really my favorite? But HEY. What about Phil? And listen, Jack. Si ain't no slouch either.

I think The Bad Time is over now that I'm lumbering into my second trimester. I'm throwing up less and have put mascara on twice in a row, so, you know, V is for Victory! It's been a really tough month. Sweaty, sleepless nights. Days spent staring at a computer monitor willing the words to write themselves.

Tomorrow we will hear the heartbeat for the first time, courtesy of our midwife.

Reader Comments (11)

If you need more TV, try Orange is the New Black on Netflix. They released 13 episodes all at once so a person can take the "marathon approach." It can have hard to watch moments but it's about women, by women, and I think FOR women. Anyway, just a suggestion. I hope you feel up to snuff soon. Many years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter I threw up every day for 30 solid days. Pregnant women have all the fun!

August 13, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterJacqueline

Midwife? Yay! If you're considering a doula too, here's one place to start: http://www.dona.org/mothers/find_a_doula.php

August 13, 2013 | Unregistered Commentersherewin

Monica, that's SO GREAT that you're using a midwife this time around. I've been reading your blog for years...yeeeears. Since Brooklyn (!!!), though I've very rarely commented. Your Henry and my Pip are a week apart, and I used a midwife for her birth. It was fun to follow along with your journey on your blog and compare our pregnancy thru toddler experiences. And I always wondered why you didn't consider a midwife given that your births seemed so easy (note that I said "births"--I'm convinced that you had rather easy births cause you paid such a toll during your pregnancies! :) ). I think you'll be really happy--midwifery is just such a different perspective on obstetric care. And the home visits after the birth are fantastic. Well, congratulations on making it through the pukes, and on the creation of a new life. Know that this stranger-behind-the-screen is rooting you on and wishing you well in the journey. Peace.

August 13, 2013 | Unregistered Commenterveedub

@veedub - Thank you so much for your comment! I have discovered that when you announce you are using a midwife people feel compelled to share all of the bad things they've ever heard about home birth ever... So your comment is a nice change of pace! I am hoping that this terrible pregnancy will be a sign of yet another easy birth for me as well!

August 13, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterThe Girl Who...

I second and third and fourth Jacqueline - you MUST watch Orange is the New Black on Netflix!!! It is amazing!!! I don't watch a lot of TV anymore. Covert Affairs. I need to catch up on Suits. I missed the whole summer season of Royal Pains since I don't have Uverse anymore. Hubby watched the entire series of Lost and then That 70's Show via Netflix. Now he is almost through with Burn Notice.

I don't miss reality TV. I am glad you are feeling better. I didn't feel better until delivery.

Yay for midwifery! It will be wonderful.

Are you in laws going to watch the kids when you are in labor or have you decided yet?

August 14, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterREK981

@REK981 - I have managed to cure myself of my Real Housewives addiction but I replaced it with a hardcore jones for Duck Dynasty.

Kids won't be at home for the labor as I can't guarantee I won't sound like an injured cow. I like to teach them the realities of life but there will be no chilluns gathered 'round my exit ramp.

August 14, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterThe Girl Who...

I had a hospital birth but had a midwife and did not see a doctor during any prenatal care or during delivery. When I screamed for drugs she turned into a drill sergeant and yelled at me to focus and look into her eyes and CONCENTRATE! I thought she was going to punch me. She was great. I love her still!

August 14, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTeresa

Oh and I have to add when I just let go of how scared I was after I got yelled at-it all turned really primal. I felt like an animal and sounded like one, but my body just took over, I did not "try" at all. Crazy but really awesome.

August 14, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTeresa

You need Showtime so you can watch Homeland and Dexter! I'm SO excited for Homeland to start again...

Glad you're starting to feel better...yay!

August 14, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterHanni

I have a question, once you have a baby at home, how do you um... register it? You know, put him/her on the records? Do you just call the social security office and declare a new birth?
Stupid questions, but things I think about when I think of home births... that and do you burn the sheets and towels afterwards ?

August 15, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterBonnieLee

@BonnieLee - You fill out the same paper work and send away for a birth certificate and social security number, same as you do in a hospital. The hospital doesn't issue the birth certificate, they just have the paperwork for you to fill out and send it to the state agency for you. My midwife does all that. Burn sheets and towels? I suppose you could if you want but you can use plastic sheets or if something gets dirty you can wash it. A lot of home births are in a birthing pool, though and I plan to have a pool as well, although whether or not I ultimately give birth in it, I don't know. All depends on how I'm feeling at the time. Which is a huge part of the beauty of home birth: I don't have to stay strapped to a monitor in a bed with my legs in the air sucking on ice chips. I can move around and get in any position that feels most comfortable and I can eat a sandwich if I feel hungry.

August 15, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterThe Girl Who...

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