A charge I hear a lot is that mom bloggers are exploiting their kids. And maybe some of them are, who am I to say? But, I wanted to quickly answer that little question for myself over here so the next time some internet hag gives me shit I can just post this link instead of wasting my time composing a comment like I did this morning.
I've mentioned my struggle with writing for Famecrawler and am still testing the waters and seeing if it's something I can see myself doing for the foreseeable future. But, as with most things on this blog, flash a little weakness to the world and some warped ass is going to train their beak my way and try to hurt me. What happened was this: I tried to be different yesterday and wrote this post. A short time later I saw some photos on the photo service Babble uses and wrote this fluff post. It's the comments after that second post I'm responding to here.
The person tries to shame me for A) saying some paparazzi dudes are douchebags when I use the photos some of them provide and B) exploiting celeb children and my own. Listen, the charge of exploiting celeb children is not one I take lightly. You may think posting ANY photos of a celeb kid on a website is exploitation and that's fine, I can understand where you're coming from. I don't think that. I use photos I think the moms themselves would like and don't use photos of kids having tantrums or where moms look bad... I happen to think that being photographed in public is part of celebrity territory. Yes, the kids didn't ask to be the children of celebrities but that's part of the deal of being a super privileged kid. Does it go too far? Absolutely. All the bizarre commentary about Suri Cruise's outfits or how Shiloh Jolie-Pitt likes to dress like a boy is just straight up creepy. I don't do that. I post Look-How-Cute-This-Family-Is photos. I feel like that's appropriate. Do I think it's really weird that society is way into seeing pics of celebrity kids? Yes. But the whole fame monster is jacked up.
So, yes, I realize there is a debate to be had here, that not everyone feels the way I do, I'm just sharing my opinion. If I happened to be famous and someone snapped a photo of me with Violet in a public place I wouldn't be outraged. The most I'd be is bummed if I was having a bad hair day or a fat day or whatever. But outraged? No. Actually, that's not true. Who's to say whether or not I'd freak the eff out if some jerkwad stuck a camera in my kid's face ? I might just freak out. But even the celebs who freak out realize that, unfortunately, it's part of the trade-off for having a sweet job that affords them a really killer lifestyle. But yeah, the whole dilemma is what makes me reticent about writing this stuff.
Secondly, do I think blogging about my kids is exploitation? God no! Actually, I rarely blog a whole lot about them, it's mostly just pictures. Even then I feel like you guys are, like, Here we go, another picture of her damn kid. So how can the motivation be exploitation when I think the world is bored by my mom stuff? In fact, in direct opposition to the exploitation charge constantly leveled, I actually feel guilty for not writing more about them here. I need to be doing more. I feel badly that I wrote so much more about Violet's first year than Henry's. I want them to have these words to remember themselves by. So, exploitation... No. Even though I'm often lumped into the "mommy blogger" category I actually think this blog is way more about my marriage and my relationship with Serge and my kids are kind of a byproduct of that.
Do other bloggers exploit their children? I don't know their motivation and, whether or not they are isn't really for me to say anyway. It's a weird thing to accuse a parent of. I mean, if I was shoving Violet in Toddlers & Tiaras pageants then maybe I could understand the accusation, but I'm a loving parent who is super proud of her kids and wants to show the world how great they are. Additionally, this actual blog makes me no real cash. You guys clicking my Babble links is how I'm making my living. But yes, I post photos of my kids on Babble. Because they're cute as hell! If that's what you want to call exploitation then okay. But I don't see it that way.
Again, I realize the opinions on this are varied but I just wanted to throw this out there once and for all so that any would-be harassers know the old "you're exploiting your kids" comments are falling on deaf ears here.
Okay... First this and now today's yammering. See? This is what I mean, man. I gotta back away from the internets. Enough of all this blogging about blogging crap. It's making my eyes bleed. God, I'm such a drag lately. Okay, so what are your thoughts on the whole thing? Say what you want to say I won't be defensive, I swear. I may comment in the spirit of debate but that doesn't mean I'm being defensive! Wait. Is this me being defensive about being defensive?