Monica Bielanko
A chronicle since 2005 of my marriage & move to Brooklyn in my twenties; becoming a mother in my thirties; moving to Pennsylvania and learning to amicably coparent after divorce in my forties while living 3 doors down from my ex-husband in a small country town.
That's What She Said
You can also find Monica's writing here:
Search The Girl Who
« Formula, Cola, Cabernet | Main | Hair Of The Dog (And Other Tails) »
Friday
Dec012006

Dress For Success Under Duress

I have one question for the high fashion females currently mincing the streets of New York City. ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MINDS? Seriously, can it really be worth it? Who are you dressing for? Yourself? It makes you feel good about yourself? I think your feet/lower back would violently disagree.

I get fashion, truly I do. It's an art form. An expression of ones' self. I understand. I dig a fabulous ensemble as much as the next gal. Piecing together a killer style from the shit hanging in your closet is commendable, not to mention frugal. You can express yourself in a variety of ways with cheap clothes. So my question is directed at the Carrie Bradshaw wannabes of the world who swaddle themselves in everything from Armani to Versace and stroke the latest Louis Vuitton purse like it's a beloved pet. Do you need all that expensive "expressing yourself" to feel good about yourself? I know you just adore that sweet little pair of d'Orsay pumps for $600, yet once again, that purchase begs the question; ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FUCKING MIND? I challenge any fashionistas out there to successfully justify to me the purchase of a $600 pair of shoes. There is no justification. Anyone who would even attempt to justify something like that needs to be shot. If you hate that I just wrote that sentence, then you need to take a good long look at your priorities.

Here is how I roll. Name brand? Fuck off. Does it look nice? Yes? Sold! What's that you say? It's Old Navy? I could give a fuck. In fact, I'm proud of my Old Navy jacket for $19 and my $30 Chuck Taylors. Wanna know why? Because they were $19 and $30! And they're comfortable as hell. I wouldn't be caught dead in Gucci or Prada or Givenchy or whatever The Beautiful People consider "couture"... unless said item was given to me as a gift and even then I'd feel prettys shitty if someone saw the label and assumed I was one of "those" types.

If fashion is an art form, an expression of ones' self doesn't it follow that if you, the lady who works as a publicist for, oh say, $70,000 a year, yet somehow manage to clothe yourself in Prada or whomever THE IT designer is, doesn't it follow that the way you're choosing to express yourself is as a shallow horse's ass? A fucking sucker. A sucker for Vogue and all the celebrity claptrap Paris Hilton stands for. At least she can afford it which is still no excuse. Not only that, not only are you flushing your hard earned money down the toilet, but you are obviously supremely uncomfortable all. day. long.

They say women dress for other women, not men. If so, women are spending millions of dollars to outdo each other on the fashion front and men could give a fuck. Throw a pair of $3,000 Escada jeans on a nice ass, then throw a pair of Old Navy or Levi specials for $20. Dude doesn't care, does he? Dude can't even tell the difference! If he can and he cares you shouldn't want to date him anyway!

Chicks are either dressing for other women (shallow! waste of time! nobody thinks about you THAT much) or they're dressing for themselves, so they "have confidence" and "feel better". Please. Go fuck yourself. If splashing hundreds - no thousands, millions - of dollars for the "right" clothes instills you with confidence then you got some real problems.. And it ain't that the Manolo Blahniks you just bought are too tight.

Reader Comments (50)

Your foot was not made to bend that way! LOL
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJen
"Dude doesn't care, does he?"

NOPE....as long as they end up on our floor.....ZING!
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterBrian
thank you for a great, great post. in gratitude i present you (all) with clothes swap instructions to update your wardrobe for free.

you need a) a few girlfriends of various shapes and sizes who have closet clutter, one of whom will be the 'auctioneer' and one the 'dealer' b) a deck of cards c) snacks & drinks

1. invite girlfriends over with all clothes (shoes, purses, jewelery etc.) they no longer want
2. dump items in giant pile on floor and sit around it
3. auctioneer holds up articles one by one for all to see
4. interested parties call out 'card!' (if nobody wants the item, it goes in the goodwill pile)
5. dealer gives interested parties a card (dealer can get a card too and so can auctioneer)
6. high card holder (ace is highest) gets the item
7. dealer gets all the cards back (put em on the bottom of the deck and peel new cards off the top)
8. repeat until auctioneer has gone through pile
9. tear off your clothes and try on your new stuff
10. give items that don't fit you after all to your friends who desperately were hoping to get em.
11. bring goodwill pile to goodwill

hints:
go ahead and bring ripped, stained and generally terrible clothes. some girls use em for sewing.

yes bring boy clothes. some girls might know one who'd like it. some girls use em for sewing. um, the clothes, i mean.

don't bring boys, or confine them to another room. their presence makes some girls uncomfortable with participating in number 9. when they're around. some girls just leave before 9. anyway and that's cool (body issues, sigh).

if a girl keeps getting 2s and 3s (cards), have her move to another spot in the room. she has to change her position to be closer her to auspicious birth element feng shui direction. (joke...sort of.)

if a girl keeps getting high cards and all the good stuff, don't gang up on her. sometimes you have to let someone else have a lucky night.

go into it with the goal of getting rid of stuff, not trying to get new stuff. and that it's just nice to spend time with your friends. then your night will work out great no matter what.

December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commentergina
I totally agree 100% with everything that you just said! I once knew this girl that just had to have name brand shit and was totally in to how much it was a blah blah blah. Bugged the hell out of me! She would spout off names and I had no clue who those designers were!

My Aunt is the exact same way! She told me that when she was in Paris (or somewhere) that she just had to get a Louis Vuitton Purse because it is "juuust the best leather" I wanted to throw up! She spent $1,000 bucks on that purse!!!

People who are all name brands can just KISS MY SKINNY ASS!
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterSM
Amen sister! This coming from someone who was just thrilled with their purchase of a pair of camoflauge (sp?) cargo pants for $7.50 at Aeropostle!!!

My motto is .. never spend more on a purse than the amount you keep in it on a regular basis. That limits mine to about a $10.00 purse :)
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJustified
Agreed sister! I get the most compliments on the items i spend $5 on at wal mart, and it's always from the people who think inexpensive clothing is beneath them. i just love telling them where i got it, because it's like a verbal punch in the gut!
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterLesli
I agree that spending hundreds or thousands of dollars on any clothing or accessory item is excessive and an attempt to compensate for some insecurity. I can't help but think that money could be donated.

However, I think there's a medium somewhere. It's not either Gucci (you're shallow) or Old Navy (you're down to earth). I like nice things and to feel comfortable. I am neither rich nor poor, and sometimes I'll indulge in a nice lipstick or perfume. I just bought a coat for $120, but this is pretty rare. I also like my 99 cent skirt from Old Navy. I just would hate to be judged for my clothing, whether its expensive or moderately priced or cheap.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterPL
It may be shallow of me, but I DO judge someone by their clothing - just not in the way you'd expect.. I don't see anything wrong with the occasional splurge, but when I see someone dressed to the nines in Gucci, Prada, whatever.. It's a turn-off. Far from being envious, I assume they're an ass that is waaaay too concerned with exterior and keeping up appearances. Of course, as I call them shallow for wearing all that crap, judging someone for what they wear is just as shallow. But I can't help it. Futhermore, I could understand a bottle of perfume or even an expensive hair product before I could understand ridiculously uncomfortable clothing and shoes, especially when you've gotta walk everywhere in NYC. It just seems like label whores are making up for lack of internal substance.... Paris Hilton, anyone?

By the way, cool idea Gina.. A friend of mine organized one of those parties and I was all stoked to go... then she had to cancel.
December 1, 2006 | Registered CommenterMonicaBielanko
Ok, maybe I have bad eyes, but I have NO idea what name brand or label anyone's clothes are unless it says on their clothes! Am I fashionably challenged?? LOL
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJen
You would not want to know what I have paid for shoes in the past. That was the old me and to my credit the expensive designers shoes are classic styles that never go out of fashion. With that said, I work from home and my fashions are mostly from Target,J Crew, vintage. I love mixing old and new. Think J Crew jeans, Target sweater and Chanel flats.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterCatnip
Great post! Am totally with you. There is no way that spending $600 on a pair of shoes can be justified...

Clothes swaps rock! Me and my friends have had a few of them and I always end up with heaps of new clothes and have never spent more than $20 for the whole lot. Although we aren't as organised as Gina...our clothes swaps go like this:


1. Invite girlfriends around with clothes they no longer want
2. Dump all the clothes in a big pile in the middle of the floor
3. Drink lots of wine
4. Dive into the pile, strip off your cothes and try anything on that you might want
5. If clothes are left at the end, hold them up and see if anyone wants to try them - if not they go in a big bag to be given to charity

I highly recommend it! It is great fun and you always get a bargain.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramy dee
AMEN, sistah.

And, I love you. Bless you.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAnnejelynn
i work in the fashion industry, and i'm appalled by $600 shoes too, but i love beautiful clothes. it's superficial, but it's something i really enjoy. and i think people choose to treat themselves in different ways. it's the same as going out for expensive meals (when you probably should be home eating as cheaply as possible, and donating the rest of your money to charity).

most of the well dressed women in nyc probably truly love fashion, for the fun of it. and a lot of them probably never pay full price. all my friends in fashion line up at sample sales to get things discounted directly from the designers, or they get clothes free from their work.

The more you know about how clothes are manufactured, the less fantastic places like Old Navy seem. Smaller designers who pay their workers well, and deal with the best factories who use the most well made materials, have to charge a lot for their product. For Old Navy to be able to sell a shirt for $19, that means they paid less than a dollar to have it made... so you can figure out how much someone got paid to make it.

I agree with you in some ways, though!
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterlc
Wow...that's pretty judgemental of you, don't you think? I mean, I rock the Target clothes and TJ Maxx purses occassionally. But I've also been known to spend a few hundred on a pair of shoes or a purse that I truly love. What gives you the right to judge me, or anyone else that does the same? Is every penny you spend put towards a more noble cause? You can put down a couple of bottles of wine in a night, I spend my money on shoes. What's the difference? It's not going to a charity either way...so you know...back off

MONICA: Um, yeah. I said it was judgmental of me. But judgmental in the same way I don't dig dudes who highlight their hair and fake bake.. I immediately assume the dude is high maintenance and nine times outta ten, I'm right. Anybody decked out in Prada all the time - I think it's safe to assume they're a little preoccupied with the wrong things. Sounds to me like you and I are on the same page though. I rock the TJ Maxx and I'll occasionally splurge on a coveted item.. That's not what I'm talking about though.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterNicole
Back in the day, when the Kate Spade craziness first hit, I bought a basic black shoulder bag from Eddie Bauer to use for work and hauling my shit around. I was out for drinks one night at the Soho Grand, and a friend of a friend said "oh, look at you with your Kate Spade bag"! All sweet and girlfriendy, and I seriously couldn't keep a straight face - mine was like $20. She just assumed I was in finance like my friend, and that the bag wasn't a knockoff - I didn't even know it was a Kate Spade-lookalike, that's how out of it I was.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterEDW
eh, i don't have a problem w/ dropping the big dough on the stuff if you can afford it. But I do take umbrage at paying the big dough to essentially become a walking advertisement for the brand that has it's name blazoned across sweaters, handbags, etc. Is it really that important for the world to know you're wearing Sean Jean or a Coach bag? Yech.

$.02
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterbloggadocio
That's funny you wrote this today. I saw a woman trip coming down the subway stairs. She was wearing a pencil skir and sky high stilettos. I had to smirk. I don't understand the point of wearing those kind of shoes if you have to truck around Manhattan. As far as dropping a bunch of money on expensive stuff - I suppose if somebody earns the money, they have every right to spend it on whatever they want. That said, I'm the kind of girl that buys clothes because I like how they look on me, not for the name brand. I do understand the annoyance though. SO many women in New York are dripping with ridiculous clothes. What kills me is when it's the ugliest outfit ever but they think they look hot because it's Armani or some other expensive brand.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterGemma
Sounds to me like you're just jealous of the money and the people that can afford to buy that kind of stuff. If you can afford it, more power to you.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterScarlett
I am all about comfort, but my husband has threatened to send me and my collection of hoody sweat jackets to What Not To Wear.I do wear cute stuff, I just get cold and have to cover it up with a jacket all the time. Fashion is too much work for me!
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commentertori
Right on!
When I was in school-chicks used to try and make me feel bad if I didnt wear the latest (name brand) trends.
My mother raised 4 kids alone and could never afford that kinda crap-we shopped at the thrift store-where it was fun to treasure hunt and find things to fit my personality.
Who wants to look like everyone else anyway?

"Calvin Kleins no friend of mine,I dont want nobodys name on my behind!"
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commentershugadeluxe
Amen~ I totally agree with you about the flashy, label-wearing, designer-name-whores. I have been amazed lately as I've noticed the obsession with women and their expensive handbags.... I told one friend that she was going to be mugged, not for her wallet, but for her purse.

I'm all about having some really nicely made, expensive stuff along with a bunch of clothes from Tar-ghay. I definately mix and match!

December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterKaren D.
You know what - whether we agree with what Monica says or not - it is hypocritical of any of us to say that we are appalled that she is soooo judgmental...bla bla bla.

Most of us on this board are women and lets not kid ourselves kids - we are the cattiest bunch of judgmental people on the planet! Women are the worst and all of you judge people daily.

IT IS HER OPINION PEOPLE. Let her judge. I love fashion and happen to agree with her 100%. At the end of the day I don't own any Prada but I could still be a shallow fuck face...but head to toe Prada is probably a dead give away.

Go ahead...judge me for this post...I know you want to! :)

December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterRichelle
Wow. This is the nastiest, most judgmental, self rightous (and dare I also say hypocritical) post I've ever read here, or on any blog for that matter. I'm awaiting the firing squad right now to strike me down per orders from Monica for my sins of designer shoe shopping and fashion loving.

Personally, my priorities are in perfect order, and those who suggest I should be "shot" for my love of fashion and my purchase of designer shoes are the ones who might want to take a look at themselves a little more closely.

The contempt in your post for those who are different from you is striking and ugly.

Additionally:
*Chuck Taylors are NOT comfortable. Walk in them for more than maybe 5-10 minutes, and you find that their thin soles and flat bottoms make them no more suited for walking than the sky high heels you've posted above.

*A Park Avenue Princess following the trends of her social group is no different than a Brooklyn hispter doing the same thing.

*Worrying about what people will think of you based on a label you're wearing could be considered the height of superficial.

*Harshly judging others for being (what you consider as) shallow and superficial because of how they dress can be considered the height of superficial.

*Judging others for being superficial based on superficial criteria, especially when you are guilty of much of what you accuse others of, seems absurd.

*Buying from Walmart, Target, Old Navy, Gap, etc. is not something to be proud of. These and other low cost stores almost exclusively use sweatshop labor, engage in poor employment practices, and otherwise harm our economy and workforce. Look up the evils of Wal-mart if you think shopping there is so much better than shopping at Chanel. Look up the effects of sweatshops throughout the U.S. and the rest of the world.

Cheap items come at a price; the price is human suffering and the end of independent business as we know it and the dominance of big box stores, no health insurance for workers, no fulltime retail jobs, etc. By trying to save money for yourself, unless you've fully researched where you're shopping and know its practices, you make sure many others, and society, have to pay dearly. This is a serious social issue about which many articles have been written and films have been made, especially recently.

*Many designer HIGH HEELS and wedges are MORE comfortable than cheaper, or flatter, shoes. You could take the literal interpretation of the saying to heart, and try walking in the shoes you judge before you judge them. Many are in fact quite comfortable.

(And I think everyone has had the experience of blisters and uncomfortable shoes, whether they've paid $200 or $2000.)

And while most cheap clothing deteriorates and turns to crap over the years, more more expensive clothes and shoes often remain in great shape and are of classic styles that can still be enjoyed decades later.

When buying more costly items, many people take into account the price per wear facor, and if the item is one they'll wear for many years, the price per wear can often come out cheaper than a bunch of cheap clothes that within a year or two have made their way to Goodwill. And even if the item is never worn, it has value as a piece of art, and is no different than any other piece of art which one appreciates for its beauty. If that piece of art is worth $600 to someone, then that's what it's worth.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterm
For years, I tried to get away with buy the cheap, $30 black stiletto pumps. They were great - for about 5 minutes.
I finally splurged and bought a pair of Steve Madden black stiletto pumps. They were only $100, but where I'm from, that's a lot for such a basic shoe.
I will tell you this: they are the most comfortable shoes in the ENTIRE world and I have never once regretted spending the money that I did on them.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterHoopla
Hmmmm...

I have something top say for the affirmative. Designer clothes are attractive. They are hot. Unless you are an "imitator". These things are expensive and well known for a reason. They have intangible image value that justifies their price.

Personally I like to wear nice clothes. I like to spend a little. But it is a little foolish to splurge on Versace or Prada if you cannot afford it.

I don’t know. I see Monica's point but I think she is a little to "thrifty" you know what I mean? You have to have a happy medium. She would look really hot in designer clothes (well…after she hits the treadmill). Damn I would look so hot in that “if I could afford it”. No worries you’re not alone.

I do like the fact that to a certain extent these clothes are "proof positive" that you can afford it and are “successful”. Just like a nice house and a nice car. An image if you will. People respond to it. I'm telling you I never get treated better on a first impression basis then when I'm in a good mood, wearing a starched designer (or not) dress shirt with pressed pants and a silk Gucci tie pulling up in my Range Rover. I like the big sunglasses that sell at that shop down the street in Manhattan Beach for $1000+ Dolce Gabannas etc that girls wear. People are buying them. But mostly rich spoiled brats that have never had to work a day in their life. And I honestly cannot stand these “kids”. Not at all. People that have had to work hard for their money understand the value it. The craziest thing about many rich people that I’ve met is how low key they are. You would never suspect that they are rich. And they do this intentionally.

Sometimes I think people see me as a “pretender” too. But it’s all good because I am just trying to put forth a professional image in a mindset. On my “down time” I don’t dress up. What’s the point? Just slap on the surf threads and chill. That being said I have a serious problem with “business casual”. I hate it. You know who you are. You people are BUMS that look like you roll out of bed, get in the car and watch the clock hit 5 waiting for the next paycheck. How can you pretend to act confident when you look like shit? I’m just waiting until the day I get sued by the ACLU for trying to enforce a dress code.

One thing that does make me feel like a sucker is the fact that many of these “designer” clothes are not even being made in Europe anymore but in China along with all “regular” clothes (old navy, Gap etc) are made overseas for $2 a shirt and $4 a pair of pants. Then you pay $40 and $60 respectively. Now THAT makes me feel like a sucker.

But then there is the image. I don’t know. It’s so confusing…
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael
You're judging me for judging her who judged the other person? What happened here? Who knew expensive clothes was such a hot topic? Monica is a cool chick and she was just saying that people look like assholes when they are gaudy and obviously obsessed with the exterior. After she clarified, I completely see her point.

It's true that indie rock hipsters take on a jock like a superiority complex and pat themselves on the back for being "critical thinkers" that have evolved and no longer need mainstream goods, but if you read this blog regularly you know Monica isn't really like that. I mean, she said she shops at Old Navy and that is about as mainstream corporate as it gets. I seriously doubt she would agree with sweat shop labor.

I agree that the there was a bit of vitriol in the post, especially the "need to be shot" and "go fuck yourself", but why attack her? I feel bad that she goes through the trouble to blog and we come here and enjoy the entertaining writing and the connection to her honesty and when we don't agree with her opinion she is attacked.
December 1, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterPL
oOooohHOHHOOOOOHHHH.....


TLDR.
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael's Mom's Ghost
My son's post that is.

wwOOOHOHohhohOOH...
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael's Mom's Ghost
Wowza.. Sling a couple arrows at the Prada wearers and they flip. Dude, why is everything written on the internets taken so seriously? If we were at a bar and I said "anyone who buys a $600 pair of shoes needs to be shot" you'd hardly flip out. It's an expression, so stop already with the my-goodness-such-violence. Though y'all make some good points, I stand by my post. Do I come off as self-righteous? Lemme break it down for you. I could give fuck all about sweatshop labor. I know, FOR SHAME! But I'll betcha most of the folks who buy Givenchy ain't really giving much thought to sweatshop labor either. Trust me, that isn't why they're buying the label and you know it. Is there something you've read previously in this blog that had me pegged as a political do-gooder or an earth mother? I don't think so. I recycle not to save the planet but to avoid getting The Stink Eye from my neighbor. Honestly, I dig the fireworks and should bait you all more often. It makes the comments so much more interesting. I ain't a hipster but I can understand the confusion; Hipsters get off on looking disheveled and perhaps raging against the corporate machine by shopping vintage. Me? I honestly don't give a fuck either way. Wal*Mart, K-Mart, T-shirt from the Mini-Mart.. Whatever. Which is not to say I don't follow style trends.. it means I don't care too much about it all and I'm not going to splash out thousands on such an endeavor. If shit in my closet happens to work with a current trend - fine. If not, maybe I'll go buy a new item (skinny black GAP jeans come to mind) but I'm not going to spend more than a hundred bucks on a pair of jeans. Am I opposed to the occasional splurge on a lovely pair of shoes or bag? No. But it disgusts me when people put so much time, effort, money etc.. into what they wear or how they look. When I see that, I assume (maybe mistakenly) they're spending so much time with the outside they're neglecting the inside.. too concerned with how they appear to the world or status elevation or name brands. If justifying your $600 shoes as art, or that they'll last longer makes you feel better about spending.. rock on with your bad self. That's your thing. I was just sharing my opinion and I still don't think the main reason you're buying the shit is because it lasts a long time or you view it as art. Your buying the name brand. If those shoes looked the exact same, were of the same quality but didn't have the Blahnik name brand I doubt you'd pay the same amount of cash for them. Those lines are just justification for ridiculous spending. When I see someone tripping down the subway stairs in Manolos.. or clutching a purse that costs more than my Mom's car I judge. Never said I didn't. And if my judging others that way makes you judge me, so be it.
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMonica
This post reeks of jealousy. I'll bet you a Gucci suitcase you you'd buy all of the stuff you claim disgusts you if you could afford it.
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMe
amy dee...you and your friends charge $$ at your clothes swaps? am confused...?
i will say, i get lots of compliments on my wardrobe, and it is 99% swap acquired, or else from the toonie bin at my friend's 2nd hand store.
(in canada we have toonies, a $2 coin.)
i am not above admitting i get a thrill when certain brand names come my way. i love diesel and seven jeans and have gotten and given both for free. i go through my life a strange hybrid of home made scarves, $200 shoes and hand me down outfits. the thing is, when you know you can always throw another swap, the clothes in your closet become transient and the labels become (erm, mostly) incidental. and you get to dodge the whole sweatshop dilemma, because somebody else already paid for it!
great post monica. everyone in a tizzy. love it.
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered Commentergina
Monica is the kind of gal who is drop dead gorgeous and down to earth at the same time. Very rare. She doesn't need expensive clothes. Those are just for the ones who need compensation because they lack something else.
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterCassie
Gina:

We sometimes charge money, sometimes not. Sometimes at the end we go through our piles and find out who it belonged to and they may charge us $2 or so..or if there is a particuarly nice/relatively expensive piece of clothing being swapped, sometimes a bit more..

However, last clothes swap we did we just swapped clothes and didn't worry about the money and it was really nice, it worked well.

As you can tell we don't have too many rules!
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramy dee
Bravo Monica
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael
So Amy Dee and Gina wear used clothes,from people they dont know?
December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael

Like so many: I can appreciate some of the finer things in life such as clothing, but it's those pretentious people who leave a bad taste in my mouth.

In my opinion, there is nothing uglier than arrogance -- I don't care what you're wearing...

December 2, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterS.
'So Amy Dee and Gina wear used clothes,from people they dont know'


No I wear used clothes from people I do know - as explained above, a clothes swap is something you do with friends.

But what's wrong with used clothes from people you don't know? I have found some amazing clothes in second-hand shops..
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramy dee
Whoops, I realise I just broke my own rule re: ignoring Michael.

Will try again.
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered Commenteramy dee
First you think it's cool to visit strip joints and now you don't give a shit about sweatshop labor. Pretty sickening.
So let me get this..you went on a walk on this exciting new "dog assignment" of yours to take some cool pictures of people with their dogs. You came face to face with a bunch of hot women that were dressed much better than yourself and are probably much more successful. Then you get on your blog and write about it so that all your "friends" will agree with you that these women SUCK so that you'll feel better! BRILLIANT!
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterbeg2defer
That's EXACTLY what happened. You are brilliant! Except you forgot about the part where I told the women how cute they looked in their "outfits" and asked where I could buy the same shit before coming home to write this blog. Because this blog? I live for it. And you TOTALLY know me.
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMonica
Good God y'all! Let me just say this about that. I do know Monica and she is all about how it looks , how it fits and if her ass looks fat in it! That's it. Even when Monica WAS making real good money ( and she will never talk about "money") so I will. Even then she could never see wasting money on name brand shit, It was about how it looked and fit. Monica can make the nicest, cutest outfits out of anything in her closet. So I know for a fact it ain't about jealousy!
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered Commentermama
You see these princy, mostly hot, really dressed to kill (or overdressed depending on your point of view) women walking these tiny little dogs on the strand that runs along the beach from Redondo to PC. Like those mini Dobermans and chi Wawa’s? With spiked collars, hehehe or dressed up. I didn’t know they had the same thing in New York...
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMichael
yeah Mama, those prairie dresses and white pumps rocked!
December 3, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterwhoopthereitis
Actually, Monica looks like she fits right in with the styles in the early 90's. You wanted her to dress like a hooker like the girls in high school are doing now?
December 4, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAimee
"m" wrote: "Look up the evils of Wal-mart if you think shopping there is so much better than shopping at Chanel."

Excuse me for a moment while I get back off the floor. Great post, "m". The evils of Wal-mart indeed!

I sure hope that Sam Walton is burning in hell somewhere for the "human suffering" he has wraught on America and the rest of the world. Employing hundreds, possibly thousands of sweatshop laborers in third-world countries around the globe - paying them $5 a week to feed their family and the goats and pay the $1.15 monthly mortgage on the grass hut. The inhumanity of it all!

Damn him and damn Wal-mart too! Damn them both along with their $6 million in grants to needy public schools - most of them in the Ozarks and Arkansas (thank you Guvner Clinton!). Damn too, the $170 million they donated to local communities and non-profit organizations last year. How DARE they! Who the hell do they think they are anyway?

Don't they know that "cheap items come at a price" and that price is "human suffering and the end of independent business as we know it?" Do they even care for Christ's sake?!?!?

And these horrible people who shop at Wal-mart and support "big box stores with no health insurance and no full-time jobs." What about them? I say damn those people too. Those inconsiderate assholes are "just trying to save money for themselves." They don't give a damn about independent business, they don't give a shit about Mom & Pop stores or small, minority-owned businesses. You know, the small independent businesses that donate $170 million a year to charity and provide health insurance and full-time jobs. (Oh yeah, that's right, Mom & Pop stores don't do that do they? Oops!) People like that just kill me, you know?

Now I have to admit that I know some people who shop at Wal-mart. Worse, they shop EXCLUSIVELY at Wal-mart. You know the type - "only trying to save money for themselves" and now because of their selfishness "many others, and society, have to pay dearly." The bastards. But I'm going to do my best to dissuade them from ever shopping there again. I'm going to show them your post and pray that they see the light. In fact, I'm going to post it on the wall in the welfare office here in Arkansas where I work. And I'm going to tell those single mothers and their four whiny kids to shut the fuck up because in a way, they're responsible for their own situation because let's face it, Mama's purse is a cheap Louis V knock-off.

I've been told I'm a fairly persuasive person and I really think I can convince my clients to stop shopping at Wal-mart and start shopping at Chanel. But "m", I'm going to have to ask you a favor. Can you call Chanel for me and convince them to unlock the door for my clients? Thanks, appreciate it. Together I'm sure we can fix this whole ugly mess.

GREAT post Monica.
Hey, whoopiewhatthehell...You talking about prairie dresses and white pumps? Lets pull up some of your early high school year pictures...I'm sure we would all have a great laugh, plus...it was 12- 13 years ago? Good God! Follow huh?
December 4, 2006 | Unregistered Commentermama
What I am learning more and more every day mama is that people are idiots and will read and interpret only what they want to the text to say to them. It's all hateful bullshit!

Oh and 'Kathy Lee Gifford is My Hero' - you are now my hero! Great comment.
December 4, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterRichelle
Wrong M... Chuck Taylors are the most comfortable footwear ever made!

Walk miles and miles, day after day... still comfy. They have been my favorite for more than ... OMG ... 30 years (math sucks).

My daughter and my 15-year-old son has been wearing them since they were babies, and we need to order his online now because his feet are ungodly big. I bought him two pairs to save the shipping costs, and he began wearing one of each -- one red and one black. Yes, I am proud.

For Christmas last year, I got all of my nieces pink Chucks and all of my nephews black. One of my sisters-in-law complained that they only want to wear Chuck Taylors. Kids don't lie about comfort, so you are wrong!
December 5, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterStarsky
Congratulations on writing such a popular post, I think there were 48 comments thus far ... Since your response was in a few parts a direct response to my comment, I am responding to your response, but then God help me if I comment about this topic here again... Sometimes you just have to let go...

However, for clarification, I submit the following:


"If we were at a bar and I said "anyone who buys a $600 pair of shoes needs to be shot" you'd hardly flip out. It's an expression, so stop already with the my-goodness-such-violence."

I don't think anyone took the "should be shot" literally. At least I didn't. My issue with that statement was that it made it clear that you don't believe anyone can have a perspective on this issue other than yours that is legitimate or has validity. You asked for justification and explanation (rhetorically, I assume) and then stated that there was NO possible explanation at all. And the statement would have the same effect on me whether spoken in a bar or written online--what's the difference?

"I could give fuck all about sweatshop labor."
Okay. You don't care about it. I do. That's fine. I assume it's still okay to comment about things on here that maybe aren't your greatest interests? I mean, if you have mostly unmoderated comments and haven't confined comments to a certain topic, I am going to assume it's acceptable to write about the angle of your post that most interests me, the reader.

"Is there something you've read previously in this blog that had me pegged as a political do-gooder or an earth mother?"
I don't see the relevance. Is there something in my expressing my opinion that has anything to do with your being an earth mother or not? My opionion is what it is, regardless of what you think of it,or even if you don't think about it at all. (And to be honest, I don't know you well enough to know what you think of sweatshops--well I do know what you think of them now since you've made that clear. I don't think you can expect every reader knows your every interest each time they comment. Readers will comment on aspects of the post that interests them and sometimes that might not interest you.) I don't see what your character or personality or preferance has to do with what I felt important to focus on in my comment (which was relevant to your post).

"I ain't a hipster but I can understand the confusion."
No confusion. I don't think I suggested that you were a hipster, nor did I think it. Maybe you are responding to someone else's comment.


"I'll betcha most of the folks who buy Givenchy ain't really giving much thought to sweatshop labor either."
"Trust me, that isn't why they're buying the label and you know it."
"I still don't think the main reason you're buying the shit is because it lasts a long time or you view it as art. Your [sic]buying the name brand."
That is my main issue with this post, the presumption that you somehow know others' motivation even better than they know themselves. In this case you are saying you know better than I do why I do something. I'm sure without a doubt that you don't know me or my motivations better than I do, considering especially, that you don't even know me.

I don't know what others do or think or care about, but I do know I don't fit into your stereotype; my guess is many others might not either.

"I was just sharing my opinion"
Me as well.
December 6, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterm
I enjoyed hearing such a different perspective and you make some very good points. Please, feel free to disagree with me as often as you're inclined to. Makes the comment section a lot more interesting.
December 6, 2006 | Registered CommenterMonicaBielanko
Comments for this entry have been disabled. Additional comments may not be added to this entry at this time.